What I Didn’t Understand Early In My Project Management Career (What’s Changed Now After 25 Years)

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April 30, 2026

What I Didn’t Understand Early In My Project Management Career (What’s Changed Now After 25 Years)

When I started my career as a project manager more than 25 years ago, I thought I understood what success looked like. I believed good project management meant having the best plan, the tightest controls, and the cleanest status reports. I assumed that if I could anticipate every risk, lock down every requirement, and keep everything moving according to schedule, I was doing my job well.

I was wrong, at least about what mattered most.

It took years of hard lessons, mixed in with some failures, and lived experience to realize that project management isn’t primarily about plans or tools. It’s about navigating uncertainty, working with human beings, and continuously adjusting how you lead.

I Thought Control Was the Point

Early on, I confused control with professionalism. If I had everything mapped out in advance, I felt competent. When things changed, I felt like I’d failed. Uncertainty made me uncomfortable, and my instinct was to tighten the reins.

But projects don’t care how well you plan. Plans, they change anyway.

Over time, I learned that no plan survives first contact with reality, and that’s not a flaw; it’s the nature of project work. What I’ve embraced now is adaptability. Strong project managers don’t prevent change; they respond to it thoughtfully. Control, I’ve learned, is temporary. The ability to adjust without panic or defensiveness is far more valuable.

I Didn’t Appreciate How Much Relationships Matter

For longer than I’d like to admit, I believed that process drove outcomes and people simply filled roles within that process. Communication, to me, meant updates and reports. Stakeholder management meant making sure the “right people” were informed.

What I didn’t get was that trust, not process, is the real engine behind successful projects.

The moments when projects turned around weren’t because a new document was introduced, but because a difficult conversation finally happened. When I started investing time in understanding pressures, motivations, and concerns, especially the unspoken ones, things changed. Teams became more open. Stakeholders became more honest. Risks surfaced earlier.

Today, I prioritize relationships deliberately. I’ve learned that when trust exists, most project problems become solvable. I don’t try to avoid having problems, I find ways to change the options. Without it, even the best plan struggles.

I Confused Being Busy with Creating Value

Earlier in my career, I took pride in being busy. Full calendars, long meetings, detailed reports, it all felt productive. The visible mechanics of project management gave me reassurance and, frankly, validation.

But busyness is a poor proxy for value.

Eventually, I realized that some of my activity was performative, designed to look like progress rather than create it. The most impactful moments often came from simplifying, not adding. Canceling a meeting. Asking a sharper, deeper question. Focusing on one decision that truly mattered. It’s not about go, go, go all the time is being focused on what is necessary.

Now, I measure my effectiveness less by how much I do and more by what changes because I was involved.

I Didn’t See Myself as a Leader

For years, I treated leadership as something that belonged to people with formal authority. I saw myself as a coordinator, someone who managed tasks, timelines, and dependencies.

What I didn’t understand is that project management is leadership, whether or not the title says so. Lord knows I have had many titles over the years.

Projects put you in the middle of ambiguity, competing priorities, and imperfect information. Someone has to create clarity, set tone, and have the hard conversations. Waiting for direction from above doesn’t work in that environment.

With time, I stepped into leadership more consciously, calling out issues early, modeling the behaviors I expected, and influencing without relying on authority. Once I embraced that responsibility, my impact increased significantly.

I Thought Experience Meant Having Answers

Early in my career, I felt pressure to always have answers. Admitting uncertainty felt risky. Asking questions felt like weakness.

Experience taught me the opposite.

Some of the best outcomes came from creating space for inquiry rather than pretending certainty. I now understand that credibility doesn’t come from knowing everything, it comes from being willing to explore, listen, and adjust course. Saying “I don’t know yet” is often the most honest and productive thing a project manager can say.

Curiosity, I’ve learned, ages better than confidence.

I Ignored My Own Sustainability

Perhaps the biggest thing I didn’t get early on was how demanding this profession can be over time. I normalized long hours, constant urgency, and chronic stress. I told myself it was just “part of the job.”

Eventually, that mindset caught up with me.

Burned‑out project managers don’t manage better, they just react faster and think narrower. You become jaded and let little things slip and that has consequences. I’ve since learned that sustainable performance requires boundaries, reflection, and recovery. Taking care of myself isn’t indulgent; it’s essential to making good decisions and leading well.

What I’ve Learned to Embrace

After 25 years, I no longer see project management as the pursuit of certainty. I see it as a practice, of learning, adapting, and guiding people through complexity. Plans still matter. Discipline still matters. But humility, trust, and resilience matter more than I ever realized early on.

If I could speak to my younger self, I wouldn’t tell them to abandon structure or ambition. I’d tell them this: you don’t need to control everything. You need to understand what matters, listen deeply, and be willing to change, your plan, your approach, and sometimes yourself.

That’s what experience has finally taught me.

PML would like to extend a huge thank you to Sylvie Edwards for sharing her knowledge and wisdom with the PML community!
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About the Author

For those who don’t know Sylvie, she has been involved in Project Management in several industries for the past 25+ years. Sylvie previously worked for a top 5 Consulting Firm, where she oversaw projects in the IT, Banking, Health, Government and Securities sectors as well as a Manager in the Risk Management practice.

Sylvie went on to establish her own consulting practice assisting organizations in establishing processes, strategies and developing methodologies. She was instrumental in the development of methodologies for the creation of PMOs as well as for the evaluation, assessment and review of projects in peril.

Sylvie is currently a professor and the coordinator for the Project Management Certificate Program at Durham College. She previously taught at the University of Toronto continuing studies department, assisting hundreds of potential PMP® achieve their certification. She is a frequent lecturer, presenter and blogger (PMWorld360°, ProjectBites, LinkedIn) on all things related to project management. She holds several certifications and has the honour of having been named Fellow of the Project Management Association of Canada (FPMAC).

Sylvie’s involvement with PMI® is long standing including over 12 years on the Board of Directors of the local Chapter where she led initiatives in education, mentoring and held the role of President for two terms. She recently accepted a role back on the BOD for PMI-DHC while still volunteering by becoming their resident “bookworm”, helping people find great reads to supplement their learning about Project Management and everything connecting to it.

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Connect directly with Sylvie on LinkedIn at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sylvie4sresolutions/

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